So, the unthinkable has happened – your woman has either broken up with you or asked for a divorce. Something like this can leave you frustrated and feel helpless and you might not even fully understand why she is ending the relationship. What should your next move be? Is there a chance to change her mind or is it just a lost cause? When you feel there is nothing you can do except be miserable, try out one of these five things that you can and probably should do after your woman breaks up with you.
1. Take care of yourself
It can become a real shocker having the woman you care about and spending her life with you to just abruptly end it all. After a shocking event such as a break up or a divorce, one can find themselves helpless and not caring about themselves at all. The key is to continue doing those basic things like eating right, getting enough sleep, and surrounding yourself with positive people who will support you in this time of need. If you lose sleep or escape using alcohol or drugs, you will never be able to make effective decisions. The most important thing is to make your well-being your number one priority.
It can become a real shocker having the woman you care about and spending her life with you to just abruptly end it all. After a shocking event such as a break up or a divorce, one can find themselves helpless and not caring about themselves at all. The key is to continue doing those basic things like eating right, getting enough sleep, and surrounding yourself with positive people who will support you in this time of need. If you lose sleep or escape using alcohol or drugs, you will never be able to make effective decisions. The most important thing is to make your well-being your number one priority.
2. Understand what you did to cause a break up
You might be confused about what happened and what led to a break up. Of course, you can fully understand what prompted her to break up and might have made a big mistake, but you still should take some time to try figuring out your part of the break up. There is probably more to the story than infidelity for example if one of you lied or cheated. Instead of blaming yourself, though, try to take responsibility and learn from what happened so if you decide to get back together with her, you are less likely to make the same mistakes.
You might be confused about what happened and what led to a break up. Of course, you can fully understand what prompted her to break up and might have made a big mistake, but you still should take some time to try figuring out your part of the break up. There is probably more to the story than infidelity for example if one of you lied or cheated. Instead of blaming yourself, though, try to take responsibility and learn from what happened so if you decide to get back together with her, you are less likely to make the same mistakes.
3. Is getting back together the best idea?
Be honest with yourself and ask yourself whether getting back together is a good idea. You might feel desperate to just get back together with her again but is that really in your best interests? It might not be so easy to ask yourself these questions, but try to look at your relationship as an observer and see if your healthy and unhealthy habits fit with hers in the relationship.
Be honest with yourself and ask yourself whether getting back together is a good idea. You might feel desperate to just get back together with her again but is that really in your best interests? It might not be so easy to ask yourself these questions, but try to look at your relationship as an observer and see if your healthy and unhealthy habits fit with hers in the relationship.
4. Communicate with your ex
Not only should you be honest with yourself, but also be honest with your ex (if you are still communicating). Tell her what you have learned or discovered from being honest with yourself. Ask her questions as well to seek out clarification. If you decided that getting back together is the best idea, then tell her things that you are willing to change in order to give it a second chance. After you have communicated with her, take a step back and try not to convince her to get back together with you. Pressuring her will just push her away. It’s up to her now to decide what she will do.
Not only should you be honest with yourself, but also be honest with your ex (if you are still communicating). Tell her what you have learned or discovered from being honest with yourself. Ask her questions as well to seek out clarification. If you decided that getting back together is the best idea, then tell her things that you are willing to change in order to give it a second chance. After you have communicated with her, take a step back and try not to convince her to get back together with you. Pressuring her will just push her away. It’s up to her now to decide what she will do.
5. Let go
After you have communicated with your ex and have discussed whether or not to give the relationship a second chance, she might not want to come back to you. As painful as it sounds, you must know when to let go. It won’t help if you keep bothering her and asking her over and over again to get back together with you. This will just set you back. If she has made it clear that she does not want to get back together with you, repeat the first step and surround yourself again with positive people who will be there to support you. As hard as it is, time will heal your wounds and you will feel a lot better and be able to move on in the future.
After you have communicated with your ex and have discussed whether or not to give the relationship a second chance, she might not want to come back to you. As painful as it sounds, you must know when to let go. It won’t help if you keep bothering her and asking her over and over again to get back together with you. This will just set you back. If she has made it clear that she does not want to get back together with you, repeat the first step and surround yourself again with positive people who will be there to support you. As hard as it is, time will heal your wounds and you will feel a lot better and be able to move on in the future.
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