Saturday, May 21, 2011

Cheating Girlfriend Signs


1. Don’t wait. If you have a feeling that your partner is cheating on you, it’s better to find out now than later. If you continue having this thought in your head, it will lead to endless worrying and insecurity which will destroy the relationship.
2. Observe. What led you to have the feeling that she might be cheating on you. Is it her new friend that she is spending a lot of time with and sharing less time with you? Has she met some new single friends she is hanging out with often?
3. Potential signs. Watch out for things such as secret phone conversation (i.e. she leaves the room every time she gets a phone call), or maybe she worries more about her appearance when she is going out without you. If your partner is fighting or arguing with you more often, this could be taken as an exit strategy to get out of the house. Another sign is lying. If you catch your partner in a lie, no matter how small it is, try to connect the lies together. Nowadays, you don’t have to go out to find someone, if your partner is excessively on the computer more than usual, she or he might in adult chat rooms or sending emails with their new “friend”. If your friends also seem a bit uneasy around you, they might know something you don’t and are afraid to tell you, and another big sign is that your partner might be accusing you of cheating.
4. Overly defensive. If you bring up a topic and her guilt takes the worse of her and she becomes defensive and accuses you of cheating, then this could lead into a stalemate and cause havoc in the relationship.
5. Say that you love her. Does she tell you she loves you back? When you hold her hand, does she try to pull it away or look nervous? These might be signs that she is thinking about cheating or feeling very guilty about cheating.
6. Crave for a fantasy. If your partner is searching on the Internet or at pornographic websites for anal, bondage, or sex with the same gender, then try to make it seem like your fantasy as well. If she can have these fantasies at home, she won’t be looking outside the house for them.
7. Look at the source, not the act. Instead of focusing on the fact that she is cheating or thinking about cheating, look at the reasons that might cause her to have these feelings and repair them.
8. Ask her friends. You are often the last to know if you are being cheated on or not, but observe her friends’ behavior. They might not rat their friend out, but they might be sympathetic with you and you can probably observe this change of behavior.
9. Ask about a specific guy. Try asking her about her opinions on some guy and if she hesitates or becomes defensive, then you might want to look into the relationship she has with that guy.
10. Look at her history. “Once a cheater, always a cheater”. If she has snuck around in her past then be weary on her actions and behavior with you.
11. Follow your instincts. After you have taking all of the evidence in and researched, in the end, follow your gut. If she has a wandering eye, she is probably thinking she can do better, and so can you.
12. Discuss it with her. If you found out she is cheating, talk to her about it. If she regrets it and she did it out of pure ignorance, you should try forgiving her. If she doesn’t care at all about what she did nor have any regrets, then it probably is best for you to move on and find someone who truly appreciates you.

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