7 Sex secrets women want men to know

A good talk is a great aphrodisiac
Many women find talk a great turn-on. For them, talking and feeling loved are very important. Good conversation during walks or while the couple is relaxing can be a great aphrodisiac. A man could tell his woman how much he loves her, which acts as a reassurance that he is with her mentally during those intimate moments.

Many women are anxious about their looks
For a couple that has been together for long, sometimes it is natural that women may feel that their partner may find them less alluring. Because of this some women undress only under the cover of darkness. Caring men can sense such anxieties. There is no need to lie and say she's gorgeous if she isn't, nor is there a need to say that she is not attractive anymore. One can always appreciate and praise what you do find attractive.

For a woman sex isn't separate from rest of her life
On the other hand, men tend to compartmentalise, feeling that stressful aspects of life can be parked mentally and separated from sexual activity. Women need good feelings and experiences during the day to have satisfying sex. How her lover treats her out of bed, greatly influences her response in bed. Inattentiveness, harsh language, rude tones, hurtful words, and criticism can make it difficult for a woman to get involved, feel enthusiastic and be passionate during sex.

An orgasm is not a necessity
Many men feel that a good lover is one who can bring his woman to climactic sexual culmination. It is great to have such moments, but aren't always essential. Many women feel pressure from partners and even from themselves to reach an orgasm. Sometimes instead of having orgasms, women prefer to engage in just foreplay.

Sex need not be a serious act
Playfulness is a great quality. Many men are far too serious about sex. They forget to laugh, be romantically mischievous, have fun. Playfulness and light-heartedness can make intimate moments enjoyable and relaxing. This takes performance pressure off from both partners.

Women cherish non-sexual touching and tenderness
Women love romance, cuddling, hand-holding and kissing. But many women complain that their men never do this except during foreplay. A woman should make her man realise the joy of touching. As you give him a relaxing massage and stroke his face and hair tenderly, he starts experiencing the joy of this kind of non-sexual touching. Tell your man what makes you feel loved and wanted.

Warm attention after sex is important
A woman's need for tender moments goes beyond the actual lovemaking. Some women complain that men fall asleep immediately after the act. It is true that when a man is having sex, his endorphin level is very high. Almost immediately after ejaculation, he goes through a refractory phase where he loses his erection and all his systems gear down. In females this phase happens gradually. However, if you don't like him falling asleep immediately, tell him without putting him down. Alternatively, let him sleep in your arms for a few minutes and gently wake him up afterwards.

Why Do Women Break Up With Men?

REASON #1) She found another guy.

Well, this really isn't a reason the way most guys think it is. You see, a woman doesn't want another guy if the one she's with is doing the right things and challenging her.

(Mind you that we're assuming that the woman is stable and doesn't have a major character flaw that leads her to cheating.)

I found out - the hard way - that a woman has NO problem cheating on her boyfriend if she feels that he's not living up to his end of the deal. Meaning, he isn't doing all the things the new guy is to make her feel unique and attractive.

She will feel JUSTIFIED in cheating, in fact. She won't even see it as cheating. She'll see it as self-preservation.

I'm not trying to make women out to be evil here because all they are looking out for is love and care and the perfect person. Even most of the guys do that same thing.

REASON #2) She's exceptionally smart and emotionally mature, and she realizes that you're not what she's looking for in a long term relationship.

The reality is that when I finally "got it" and understood that you can very easily get a woman so addicted to having you around (because you're giving her what no other guy seems to be able to, other than the unstable "bad boys" out there), you'll have the very real problem of women staying with you even when it's not a good match.

In other words a nice guy to roam around with not the one who they can settle down with. 

REASON #3) You STOPPED doing all the things that got her attracted to you in the first place.

In other words, you let the attraction energy die out.

I could write books and books on this topic...

The fact of the matter is that guys typically put in a lot of energy to get things started with a woman, don't we?

We have to approach her (tell me that isn't agony...)

We have to brave the fear of rejection...

We have to get her number...

We have to call her up and ask her out...

We have to make the plans for the date...

We have to keep escalating things until we can sleep with her...

Hey, that's a lot of work! But we don't mind because it's the thrill of the chase.

But after you've conquered her, this is typically where the average guy lets off that gas and expects the woman to take over. And many women DO take over...... for a time.

Eventually, though, she becomes resentful that she feels like SHE is doing all the work, and she starts to withdraw. Eventually, she'll either cheat, or she'll just break up with you.

Just remember, there's always a guy out there waiting to do whatever it is you stopped doing to attract your woman.

Look, I'm not saying a woman is justified here, but you have to be realistic. If you weren't doing your work at your job, would you REALLY be surprised if your boss came to you one day and said, "We're terribly sorry, but you haven't been doing your duties. We've found a replacement for you. You're fired."

AND THERE ARE  MANY MORE REASONS ............. IT WILL NEVER END....

What men hate: 8 things that turn men off

1. Contentious women. This is a very defensive person. Who is always ready to pick a quarrel, fight or give some sassy remark. They want to proof themselves right and whole world wrong. They have a chip on their shoulder. These types of women are very difficult to be around much less live with. They can easily provoke a man to anger, to the point of aggression and violence. Men tend to create a wide birth around any such woman.

2. Mothering While men love to be taken care of they hate being mothered. It annoys them to be treated like a child. Don’t think it is your duty to get him into shape. Mothering also include smothering and doting on him – like telling him what to do, when to do it and how to do it. “Why you don’t go and get some sleep or brush your teeth?” Men like to be nurtured not mothered.

3. Prying I think that some women are better than the CIA, M15 and KGB all put together. They interrogate and investigate stealthily. Checking anything from telephone bill to receipt slips found in your pocket. They want to know who the man spoke to , why they are calling you and what your conversation was all about. While it may be necessary at some point to do these, when a man finds himself subject to any of them, it really annoys him. Men like to be trusted and not feel that their privacy is being invaded. If a man feels you are trying to catch him out he will clam up, shut down and wall you out from their inner world. The moral here is to devote your energy to building a NEST rather than a NET.

4. Possessiveness No body likes to be owned, especially men. Treating a man like he is your personal property is a sure recipe for romantic failure. They will run a mile. Trying to control who he speaks and associate with is wrong. While it is natural to feel a little pang of jealousy when he gives other people the attention you want to be only yours, overtly trying to control his interactions with others may make him feel your are paranoid. Paranoia is not very attractive, in fact it is very repulsive.

5. Clingy and neediness A clingy person is like a burden. They emotionally depend on you for everything. It is as if you have to be responsible for their very existence. Responsible for making them happy, glad, excited and pleased. They look to you to entertain them and get things moving for them. Without you life is dull and boring.

Nobody likes to be around these type of people. Sometimes they stoop to what I call emotional black mail. They threaten to harm or even kill themselves if hey don’t get what they want – You! Men see such women as people to AVOID at all cost. Such women usually get treated like floor mats. Men simply use, abuse and confuse them. Because they are so dependent on men to be happy, then the men use this as tool to manipulate them.

6. Dependence This is the corollary one of the above. In other words you weave your world around his. He becomes your existence or you live for him. You have no life of your own. This is most dangerous because you will soon find that you can’t live without him. You become attached or emotionally enmeshed. Men hate this because somehow you become his responsibility, a weight to be carried around. In fact he begins to treat you like rubbish and his respect just diminish; he doesn’t respect you anymore. 

7. Invasion of personal space He doesn’t like you invading his privacy, checking his telephone bills and looking into his mobile, eavesdropping on his telephone conversations and wanting to know all his whereabouts. This is very obnoxious to men. He feels as if he is loosing his freedom and men love freedom. He will drop you like a hot potato if he feels you are invading his space.

8. A brawling woman it is better to live in the corner of the rooftop than with a brawling woman the Good Book says. Such a woman is uncultured and uncouth. Most men love ladylikeness. They love feminine women who know how to behave and carry themselves. Most men avoid women who do not have class or culture about them.

How to Survive a Hangover

Common People Drink Like A Fish

1)     Prepare before drinking. We all know it’s better to be proactive than reactive. If you are aware that you’re in for a heavy night of drinking, then be smart, prepare your body to help endure the beating it’s about to receive.

Ø  Coat your stomach: Eat a big starchy meal before the drinking begins. Greasy foods such as hamburgers and French fries will help to absorb the alcohol. Lots of bread is also suggested.

Ø  Drink lots of water: A 1:1 ratio is recommended. For each drink you have, drink one glass of water. This will help to reduce dehydration.

2)      Drink lots of fluids. Ok, so the damage has been done. You’ve woken up with an absolutely splitting headache, dry and sticky mouth, and the slightest bit of light seems unbearably bright. Now what? Well, your body is dehydrated, so it’s time to replenish some of what you’ve lost.

Ø  Drink lots of water 

Ø  Drink juices. Both orange and cranberry juices are a good idea, perhaps even mixed together. Vegetable juice is good as well. The key thing here is to nourish your body with plenty of vitamins.   

3)      Call into work. Sometimes it’s best to simply admit that you’ve been defeated. Of course, this may not be the best thing to tell your boss, depending on your relationship with him or her. Keep in mind, alcohol is probably still seeping out of your pores creating an unpleasant odour that will surely be identified. Hell, you might even still be drunk! Creeping into work sporting a pair of sunglasses to hide your blood-shot eyes is most likely not going to work in your favour. Don’t try and be a hero, your reputation is on the line and it’s best to simply call out sick. Simply tell your boss you have the stomach flu.

Ø  Most state laws prohibit your employer from interrogating or questioning why you are calling in.

Ø  Use your best judgment when making this decision. Be careful, if you have had prior corrective counseling for attendance, a decision like this could cost you your job. Keep this in mind before you go out drinking!

4)      Get lots of rest. The best cure for a hangover is to sleep through it. After you’ve completed steps 2, 3, and 4, prepare to recharge your batteries. Close all your blinds, turn off your cell phone, and crank up the A/C or heater depending on the day’s temperature. Crawl into bed, get under the covers, and for God’s sake, get some shuteye!

Ø  Try a damp washcloth on your head. This will help with your headache, and also act as a beauty rest eye mask.

Common Marriage Mistakes

As a typical man, you are probably making several different mistakes in your marriage that you might not even notice. Correcting these mistakes will go a long way for your wife and for your marriage and that can only mean good things for you. Here are some common mistakes men make in a marriage.

Spending money without consulting the wife. This is a huge mistake and can sometimes be as bad as cheating. You should always consult your wife before making big purchases like buying a new car.

Not understanding her feelings. Many times men will go into a fix-it mode when they see their wife is upset. Instead of talking about hard facts, women want their feelings to be understood and showing empathy is an important thing to do as a husband.

Being sexually selfish. Women are not turned on as easily as men are. It takes affection and a connection before the lights go off in order to make her feel wanted.

Not talking about your own feelings. It is a great thing to listen to your wife’s feelings and understand her, but you should also share your own. Being closed off to her when it comes to your feelings will let her feel that she is missing a real connection with her husband. When the man is withdrawn, she feels like he is leaving her.

Being too demanding. It is natural for a man to feel dominant in a relationship, but being abusive of power can also be damaging to the relationship. Making demands and trying to overpower her will just send her away. Instead, show more care and affection.

Dating Strategies and Tactics

1. You have to go after the one you want and then win them over. Be a friend - show attention, understanding, acceptance, and appreciation.
2. Satisfy emotional needs- show interest and listen to them. Spark a romantic emotion. Romance is a combination of hope with some doubt and it adds up to passion. People want what they can't have.
3. The third part of love is respect. It is earned through your actions. You must show an independent and confident personality. You can live with them or without them. You are in no hurry and aren't desperate.
4. You really have to date several people at once. It will make you look like a great catch. When you have multiple options, anyone who wants to be with you will work much harder. Instead of you doing the chasing, they will be chasing you. This takes the pressure off of yourself. You really want to date a few people anyway before jumping from one long term relationship to another.
Dating Strategies to keep in mind:
You must be happy with yourself before you will have success. Be kind to yourself and turn off the negative thoughts. You can change what you can and forget the rest. Don't worry about things you can't change. If you can't change them, all the worry in the world wont do any good.
Set some goals and write them down. You must make a plan with a clear path you want to follow.
You must set aside a night each week to get out of the house. Go where others gather. Check the paper for ideas and get out there. How many people have you met at your house? Force yourself to go out anyway. It is only one night a week, you can still sit on the couch the other six nights. You aren't

going to find new people unless you actually go out.There are single and available people all over the place. Nearly every place you go, has single people if you LOOK. Start simple don't go after the hottest person(too much pressure). Talk to the average person, get a phone number and move on. It really is a simple two step process. Meet and greet, a short conversation with eye contact and then say Great meeting you, but I have got to run; could I get your number? The Key is to RELAX. The more you do this the easier it gets.
Take the initiative and be the first to show interest in them. It shows confidence. You are only trying to get that first date. Don't start fretting about your wedding and future children just yet. Keep it simple. But you must do it yourself, no one will do it for you. Don't let an opportunity pass by, get that phone number and go from there.
Rejection is part of the dating game. Don't take it personal, not everyone is going to want to date you. They may not be dating at all right now. You never know unless you ask. Don't be afraid of looking foolish, we all look foolish all the time. Use positive reactions in the face of rejection. You aren't worried if they say no. You asked and that is the most important thing. One more no means you didn't waste your time and money on someone who isn't even interested. Plus you are just closer to finding the one who is interested. It is all practice and will make you a master at dating that much quicker.

What Really Makes You Nervous Around Women

Here are a few simple tips that will help you deal with it. Do you feel anxious whenever you talk to a woman? Symptoms like fidgeting, not being able to maintain eye contact, gulping in fear, becoming dry-mouthed, being overly nice, tense facial muscles and laughing uneasily at all her jokes are symptoms of getting too nervous.Your priority when first interacting with a woman is to make her feel relaxed around you. You’ll find this extremely difficult to do if you are nervous, so here are some insights on overcoming nervousness around women.

Maintain eye contact: If a man is unable to hold eye contact with a woman and looks away first, she won’t like it and feel uncomfortable. That is not attractive to women. You may be thinking, “Should I stare her down during interactions?” Not at all. If your eyes do meet, you should be comfortable enough to hold the eye contact. However, it shouldn’t be a stare.
Smile can do wonders: An endearing sort of smile can actually do the magic for you. From afar, your smile can communicate things like you are friendly, social, humble and interested to talk to the lady.
Clam and composed: A simple way of overcoming nervousness is to slow down your thoughts and movements, and behave in a relaxed manner. Control your anxiety and do not try to do things fast and in a haphazard way.
Check your body language: To overcome nervousness is changing the way you think about yourself and how you use your body (i.e. tone of voice, confident body language, etc).
Talk it out: Start a discussion on the subject both of you like. This is no rocket science and all it requires is an initiative from your end. This will help you to break the ice and then both of you can enjoy a casual conversation.
Make an effort to follow the dos and don’ts the next time you’re out in public with a woman, and you’ll see the difference.

Weird Things Men Like In Women

Men are crazy. And they get crazier when they see you approach him in those red pumps and skinny jeans with a baggy and casual tee in style and confidence.
Although there are a thousand things which make your irresistible, here are the top most unbelievable ones:

1. No make-up: Oops. Sorry girl. There's a great chance that your guy hasn't even noticed your smokey eyes or the new bronzer on your face. Save money and turn him on!

2. Lingerie that doesn't match : And you though you should pair your lacy, satin purple panties with a purple bra? Show him that you are unprepared and yet give in to his desires and make yourself hotter!

3. Wit : You thought it was all about physical contact? Crack a joke or flash your smile and he's sure to get wooed! Tip: It's better still if you are game even for jokes that are played on you. And why not? It just proves how self-assured you are.

4. Curvy is sexy: He doesn't like flat abs and zero sizes. Men love love-handles.

5. Intelligence, confidence, emotional maturity and sexual openness : Flaunt your real self (sans the gloss), support him when he is down, talk dirty and show your sensual attitude, and girl, you've got him!

6. Wearing a baggy tee to bed: Stay casual and he'll be more comfortable in your company. Don't intimidate him by being prim always or sounding like a know-it-all.

7. Unkempt hair: Whoa, why get prim and proper when your man likes your bed-hair or smudged kohl eyes?

8. Eye contact: Make yourself irresistible by looking at his eyes and putting across your point. Don't be shy.

How To Break Silence After A Fight With Your Beloved

If you are feeling your tongue-tied to make the first move to make up after a fight? you are really not alone in this situation, its very common problem.

Here’s what may help

Once flaring tempers calm down, are you and your partner often engulfed in silence, simply waiting for the other one to break it? Well, many couples feel tongue-tied to break the ice; in the silence their heads are spinning with guilt, and if only egos could be easy to set aside, they can’t wait to hug and make up.

Here are some tips that can help you take the first step, that makes one the real winner in the fight.

Start with writing

If talking to your partner after an argument doesn’t come to you no matter how much to push yourself, then start by penning down your feelings. Pick up colourful post-its, and write ‘sorry’, ‘I love you’, and whatever else you wish, and watch him melt. This is your first lesson to make the first move.

Entice with aroma

If cooking is your thing, then head to the kitchen. Cook up his/her favourite meal. Even if you aren’t an expert, the fact you took the effort to make something for him/her after a tiff will land you a hug and kiss instantly, and maybe a lot more.

Talk yourself into it

You need to give yourself a shrink talk. Wanting to be right in an argument is the easiest way to keep the fight going. So, when you know you want him/her, why hold yourself back. Maybe counting all the good things about him/her will ignite your motor to speak out the words you mean. Start with one heartfelt, meaningful sentence, and you’ll realise there’s no need for anymore words at all.

Are You a Person of Substance or Pretense?

Do you value style more than substance? Are you just loud and no melody?
Most people these days have devoted their time, energy and money in showing off. Their lives revolve on being someone who they are not. They become so absorbed trying to live the lifestyle to which they do not belong. They love to be seen even though there is nothing to see (in them).
They love to be shocking to get attention. They are like colorful balloons. They look pretty on the outside but all air in the inside.
These people seem to have everything except themselves. In their pretending they have forgotten who they really are. They have come to be ashamed of their past life, friends and mostly their past selves. They will desperately protect their status quo even if their actual status is a big K.O.
But these pretenders cannot escape themselves in the end. Their shallow ways of life will soon evaporate. And then, they will only be left with themselves, their real selves. They will have to look at the man in the mirror whom they hate and deny.
On the contrary, a person of substance is a person who does not pretend. He knows who he is, no more no less. He is joyful of his strengths and aware of his weakness. He tries to improve himself, but he does it based on reality. He does not change his “acting”, but he changes his being. The more he changes himself for the better, the more people respect him. He does not need to pretend to be someone who is not because he knows it is useless.
A person of substance does not try to win the approval of others. But others try to win his approval. He does not have the desire to shock and awe others. He knows that silent waters run deep.
Stop pretending.
Be yourself.
Be your better self.

Things Men Should Know About Women

1. Only 30% of women reach orgasm on every sexual act

What conclusion can be drawn from here? That 70% of women don’t even know how to or don’t even struggle to get there. No? They have sex just to be done and while they’re doing it they’re thinking if they look fat, if their hair is ok, if they shout too loud or if they don’t shout at all, what they have to do tomorrow, what’s in the fridge and all other shits that can pass trough a woman’s brain. Nothing about what is really happening there, because if they had done this they probably knew that the only purpose of having sex is to get to an orgasm, not to think of the shopping list for the next day. Next…

2. 50% of women have simulated orgasm at least once in life

I don’t want to ruin your self image but I can tell you for sure that at least half of your sex partners have lied you. Don’t worry yet, it isn’t your fault. You had your orgasm, you’ve done your part. They are just too stupid to understand why they are there. Women want to be equal with men but half of them are reducing themselves to a man’s pleasure achievement tool. Statistics don’t lie.

3. 3% of women sneeze at the thought of sexual fantasies

This is too funny to be true. And when you think that… the other 97% apparently get all wet when they think about it it’s even better. The 3% don’t know what they’re missing, eh? Too bad that when they are truly able to accomplish their fantasies, they’re missing that part. This is the cruel truth: some of them get to the pleasure while some will just settle for a sneeze.

4. Older women appreciate sex more than younger ones

Well at how rare it is at that age, no wonder. And dad’s soldiers have a limited term of use, no? But this is the main reason why we love MILFs. If she’s hot and pretty desperate, she’s gonna do it with whoever has the guts to ask her properly. And she’ll teach him a lesson too. Or more. We all have our half-fuck-mate out there, somewhere.

5. 80% of women are sure that all men cheat

Do you realize that, in the entire world, there are still 20% naive women?! No problem for us, the best enemy is the one that you don’t know of.

6. Fat women have less sex

And because their sexual energy isn’t released, they eat even more. And they get even fatter, so the chances of having sex are less day by day. Dammit, it’s a vicious circle. We will soon be eaten by enormous women. Save the mankind and go fast and have sex with the first fat woman you will see. Together we can make it!

7. 80% of women gain weight after their wedding

So… take a better look at her now because you won’t see it like this again after. Or just, don’t get married. This also shows why there are 40% mistresses in the world.

8. Very few women want to implement their sexual fantasies

Well, who would want sex with a Latin guy on a Spanish beach, while troubadours are singing in the background? I mean, a little privacy, please… And if they will really manage to do this, they probably won’t enjoy the moment since they aren’t capable of it. They’ll just think that the troubadours would look better in pink suits and that Latin guy could be a celebrity or maybe it should have been an Italian beach and so on. Who cares? Most women are too shy to share their fantasies, and they’re even more scared of implementing those fantasies in life.

9. Women are able to have sex out of pity or revenge

“I don’t have nickels to give you but take some sex.” Yes, especially the revenge sex gotta be a good one. “You mother f#$@%g pig! Take this to see if you’ll be able to comment again!!” Revenge sex is great.

Inspirational Story of Abraham Lincoln

Before he became one of the greatest president of the United States of America, Lincoln suffered alot of trials and defeat. Yet after all he had been through, he pressed foward. And after that, everything is history.

1809 Born February 12
1816 Abraham Lincoln's family was forced out of their home and he needed to work to support his family.
1818 His mother passed away
1828 His sister dies
1831 A business venture failed
1832 He ran for the State Legislature. He lost.
1832 In the same year, he also lost his job. He decided he wanted to go to law school but couldn't get in.
1833 He borrowed money from a friend to start a business. By the end of the year, he was bankrupt.
1834 He ran for the State Legislature again. This time he won.
1835 The year was looking better as he was engaged to be married. Unfortunately, his fiancee died and he was grief stricken.
1836 This was the year he had a total nervous breakdown and for 6 months was bedridden.
1836 He sought to become Speaker of the State Legislature. He was defeated.
1840 He sought to become Elector. He was defeated.
1842 Marries Mary Todd. They have 4 boys but only one would live to maturity.
1843 He ran for Congress. He lost.
1846 He ran for Congress again. He won and moved to Washington.
1848 He ran for re-election to Congress. He lost.
1849 He sought the job of Land Officer in his home state. He didn't get the job.
1850 His son, Edward, dies.
1854 He ran for the Senate of the United states. He lost.
1856 He sought the Vice Presidential nomination at a national convention. He got less than 100 votes.
1858 He ran for the Senate again. He lost again.
1860 Abraham Lincoln is elected President of the United States.

To Love or To Lust?

Love is one of the misused words in our vocabulary. In effect its real meaning has become vague. Saying “I love you” and “I love pizza” seems to be same to many.
Could it be that we treat people as pizzas?
To love, real love or agape is to give oneself to the other for the sake of the other. To lust is to treat people like pizzas.  To lust is to use people for your own selfish desire for pleasure. What do you do when pizza satisfies your craving? It becomes a leftover. And sooner or later it gets thrown away.
Many people feel that way.
Thrown away.
Lust uses people for selfish reasons and desires. After the reasons or desires are met, the person is discarded. And sadly we live in a culture that promotes using each other, just look at the advertising industry.
Love, the real thing is on the opposite side of lust. Love wants what is the good of the other. It does not use the other to benefit oneself.  Love looks at the eyes of the beloved. Lust is trapped in his own ego, thinking how to use the other person.
Once I heard that as long as two people are in the agreement in using each other, it is alright. But it does not change the fact that you are being used and you are using another person. And people were not made to be used; we were made to be loved.
To live a life of lust is to live a life of emptiness.  Only real love can truly satisfy us.
Love and lust cannot exist with each other for the reason that love cannot wait to give while lust cannot wait to take.
How does this agape looks like?

So what is your choice? To love or to lust?

Are You Stuck In the Past? Or Are You Anxious About the Future?

Are you living in the past, present or future?
Many of us are burdened, if not caught up with our past. More than the consequences of our past actions, we let the memory of the past drag us down. We like to hit the rewind button in our memory and lick the wounds of long ago. We open up one painful memory and then a sudden flood of other unpleasant memories comes rushing in. And downward spiral we go.
We spend most of our time entertaining our bitterness, pains and disappointments of yesterday. We even spend countless hours just imagining the day we will get our vindication or even vengeance from past hurts. As we waste our time dwelling in our past, our present is wasted as well. And the sad thing is that our today is our tomorrow’s yesterday. Wasting the present now is just adding up to our wasted past. And the vicious cycle continues.
Many of us are also so anxious about our future. While our bodies reside in the present moment, our mind has time traveled years from now. We spend much time being worried and gloomy to things that has not happened yet. We are so absorbed in the “What Ifs” that we forget the “What nows?”
Our present also affects our future very much. To have a better tomorrow is to have a better today. Our actions today will greatly affect our future, good or bad. To waste your time today being anxious about tomorrow is to waste the opportunity to improve your tomorrow.
Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
To live life is to live in the present moment. The past is dead and the future is yet unborn. The key to healing the past and having a hopeful future lies to what you will decide to do NOW. Now is the only thing we really got. If you waste the present moment by dwelling in the past or being anxious about the future, you end up loosing everything.
The past belongs to God’s mercy, the future to His Providence and the present to His Love. To live in the present moment is to accept and experience God’s love here and now.
Today is your tomorrow’s past.
The way you live today will make your tomorrow better or bitter.
Today is where you are.
Are you there?

Social Network Addicts Are Loneliest People

A national survey by Relationships Australia has indicated that Generation Y, who always stays connected with others through social networking sites, is the loneliest generation.
According to the Relationships Indicators Survey 2011, 30 per cent of Australians aged 25 to 34 told the survey that they were frequently lonely, far more than any other age group. The second loneliest were the young adults – with 19 per cent of them claiming to be frequently lonely.
The survey, which polled 1204 adults this year, highlighted connections between online life and loneliness. The frequently lonely were much more likely to try online dating, and to use several forms of social media (particularly Facebook ) to maintain friendships.
Melbourne University philosopher Damon Young said Generation Y is lonelier because people don’t know how to be alone.
“People who are constantly connected electronically find being alone very difficult, so it’s not that these people are necessarily more alone; it’s that they feel it more keenly. I would guess that older people who haven’t been continually saturated with information are actually able to stand their own company,” the Sydney Morning Herald quoted Young as saying.

Cheating on Best Friend

When cheating comes into a relationship, people tend to expect their partner to cheat on them with someone at the work place or that they met somewhere out. People tend to ignore the fact that most partners wind up cheating on their partner’s best friend. How can this be?

Well, it might turn out that your best friend isn’t much of a friend after all and will be the most likely person to stab you in the back. Think about it, you spend all the time you have with your best friend when you are not with your girlfriend. After your girlfriend is comfortable with your best friend, you three hang out a lot together. They tend to get closer, not realizing they are flirting with each other.

The biggest thing that reaches out to your partner’s craving to cheat on you with your best friend is that she knows when you don’t treat her well or if things don’t work out, she will have someone to go to and fall back on. She knows someone will be there for her and take care of her when you hurt her.

The moral of this story is that you should not let too much time being spent between your girlfriend and your best friend. Avoid letting them get too close. Also, and most importantly, treat your girlfriend will respect and treat her very well with the kindness she deserves.

What Is Success?

Our society places so much emphasis on "making it", and we assume that any failure is bad. We try our best to avoid failure in our daily life. Is failure really so bad for us? No, what we don't always recognize is that what looks like failure may prove beneficial in the future. On the contrary, some times success can be destructive for us in long run.

    The danger of too early success is particularly acute. There was a girl who could write perfect calligraphy of China when she is primary school student. While the rest  were playing, bicycling and reading, she practise calligraphy everyday after school and all the weekend. Her name often appeared in the papers and radio in our school, and the rest envied her glamorous life. Years later, she failed to pass the examination of collage. She spoke bitterly of those early triumphs. “I never prepared myself for anything, but calligraphy of china.” Too earlier success block her step to bigger goal.

    Success that comes too easily is also damaged. One of my high middle school classmates, who always is the top student in our class. He is a talent in the eyes of his parents and us. After entering the collage, he faced the competition which he has never run into before. He doesn't stand head and shoulders above others anymore. He was not excellent as he used to anymore. He was disappointment and annoyed with his situation. He paid more his attention on score and the others opinion, but the collage work itself. He lost his way. Too easy success cover his mind to overcome difficulty in the future of his life.

    Success is also harmful when it is achieved at the cost of total quality of an experience. Successful student sometimes become so obsessed with grades that they never enjoy their school years. They are never branch out into attempting new areas, because they don't want to risk their grade-point average. Success which encourage repetition of old behaviors, is not nearly as good a teacher as failure. You can learn from a mess party how to organize it next time, from an ill-chosen book what to look for in a second. Even a failure that seems totally can prompt fresh thinking, a total change of your dream. 

    Observing the histories all over the world. Thousands of stories told us this truth. Failure is not always bad as we thought it is. Meanwhile, success is not always good as we expected. In particular, it comes too early and too easy

The Worst Education System

The Education system in India is one of worst education system that you can ever have. We give a lot of importance to education, ones future depends on how highly qualified he/she is. We have to study subjects that we are not even interested in and which will never help us in our lives. In a good education system one should be able to gage his/her capability at an early age and educate himself/herself accordingly to his/her interests in life.

What do people actually mean when they say that someone is well educated?

Here we have books written by different authors that we have to study and every individual can decide which author’s book he/she wants to study. My question is “Why should we believe the authors who have written these books?” Is it just because a bunch of people sitting in a room decided that this is important and should be added to the education system?

So what it all comes down to is how good a person is at replicating the knowledge in those books! Is that the real meaning of being well educated or intelligent? This brings me down to a conclusion to say that parroting a book is equivalent to intelligence.

No Thinkers only Parrots

The people we call graduates are the ones who have been excellent at replicating the knowledge they have got from books. Is this the real meaning of intelligence? At campus interviews it’s not always the top rankers who get selected into the best companies, ever thought why? This is because companies look for people who can think out of the box, come up with new ideas, etc. These people are very rare nowadays. The schools and colleges that we have right now do not allow student to be innovative.  It’s all about completing the syllabus! Every school and college will deny this, however this is a fact! This is a fight that every literate person has to fight. With all the competition in todays world people have forgotten to follow their passion! Everyone wants to or is made to study just for the sake of graduating. Let’s face the facts not everyone works in the stream they have studied; Ever thought why? Mukesh Ambani was educated at Abaay Morischa School in Mumbai and completed his graduation with a bachelor`s degree in chemical engineering from the UDCT, now known as the Institute of Chemical Technology, Mumbai. Do you think he has done justice to his degree?

On the other hand we have people like Albert Einstein who never went to school, Dhirubhai Ambani was not educated Michael Dell, Mark Zuckerberg who were college drop outs. These are the most successful people that we know of. 

No offense intended to anyone, I am a student myself. All I think and want you all to know is don’t always replicate; Innovate, let the people around you know you for “your own” ideas and not your educational qualifications.

 I’ll leave you with this thought “Thinkers are the ones who can make changes for a better tomorrow not parrots”.

                                                                                                                                        

                                                                                                                                        Vicky Chaudhary.

Men Like Women With Naughty Looks

Men are attracted towards women with sexy looks, according to a new survey.
And a great cleavage is the next best thing to turn them on.
However, when it comes to women, just a simple smile is enough to get them attracted to men.
In the survey, it was found that women were also attracted to men with a good sense of humour, even though they were unattractive.
The survey led by popcorn makers Butterkist also revealed that stockings and suspenders, knee-high boots and short skirts also featured on the list of what men couldn’t resist about women.
Thoughtfulness, generosity, and intelligence along with affectionate attitude made it to the list of biggest turn-ons for women.
“We wanted to get under the skin of what it is that makes someone actually irresistible,” the Daily Express quoted a Butterkist spokesman as saying.
“We found it’s a rare combination of things, both mental and physical,” he added.
One in 10 admit having never met someone they could not take their eyes off.
One in five said they would make any excuse to spend as much time with the man or woman of our dreams.

Top Myths About Men’s Body

If you shave your hair comes back faster and thicker

“If that were true, we’d have a cure for male pattern baldness,” Carroll said.
Stubble may look darker and coarser because it has not yet been exposed to sun and other wearing elements.
Once it grows in, it looks identical to the hair that was shaved away.

Men think about sex every 7 seconds
“That is as many times as we breathe everyday. Nobody has that type of mental stamina,” Live Science quoted Carroll as saying.

In one of the most comprehensive surveys about sexual habits in the United states, completed by Edward Laumann and colleagues in 1994, 43 per cent of men reported thinking about sex not even once a day, but rather somewhere between a couple times a week to a couple times a month.

Single guys have better sex lives than married guys

Conventional wisdom says married men get nothing but slumber in their bedrooms, while single studs are “closing the deal”. But it is actually those with the vows that are getting it on.
A study by the National Opinion Research Center found that husbands get lucky between 28 per cent to more than 400 per cent more often than bachelors, depending on their age.
And it is not a ho-hum roll in the matrimonial bed; not only are married women more likely to be orgasmic, married men also give and get more oral sex.

Semen is loaded with calories

According to Dr. Rachel Vreeman, also of Indiana University and Carroll’s co-author, seminal fluid is made up of water and nutrients such as vitamin C, calcium and magnesium.
It also contains the sugar fructose but only 5 to 7 calories worth per serving.
“It is unlikely to create a diet issue, but this should not be used in an argument for whatever,” Live Science quoted Vreeman as saying.

Men with big feet also have big penises

It is true that the development of penises and toes (as well as clitorises and fingers) are influenced by the same gene. But the length of one does not predict the length of the other.
In a study of more than 3,000 men, no correlation was found between the self-reported size of feet and that of the crown jewels.
Another study, headed by Jyoti Shah at St. Mary’s Hospital in London, compared foot size to carefully measured privates (all 104 penises were stretched to their longest length for consistency.) No correlation was found.