Saturday, July 30, 2011

To Love or To Lust?


Love is one of the misused words in our vocabulary. In effect its real meaning has become vague. Saying “I love you” and “I love pizza” seems to be same to many.
Could it be that we treat people as pizzas?
To love, real love or agape is to give oneself to the other for the sake of the other. To lust is to treat people like pizzas.  To lust is to use people for your own selfish desire for pleasure. What do you do when pizza satisfies your craving? It becomes a leftover. And sooner or later it gets thrown away.
Many people feel that way.
Thrown away.
Lust uses people for selfish reasons and desires. After the reasons or desires are met, the person is discarded. And sadly we live in a culture that promotes using each other, just look at the advertising industry.
Love, the real thing is on the opposite side of lust. Love wants what is the good of the other. It does not use the other to benefit oneself.  Love looks at the eyes of the beloved. Lust is trapped in his own ego, thinking how to use the other person.
Once I heard that as long as two people are in the agreement in using each other, it is alright. But it does not change the fact that you are being used and you are using another person. And people were not made to be used; we were made to be loved.
To live a life of lust is to live a life of emptiness.  Only real love can truly satisfy us.
Love and lust cannot exist with each other for the reason that love cannot wait to give while lust cannot wait to take.
How does this agape looks like?

So what is your choice? To love or to lust?

Friday, July 29, 2011

Are You Stuck In the Past? Or Are You Anxious About the Future?


Are you living in the past, present or future?
Many of us are burdened, if not caught up with our past. More than the consequences of our past actions, we let the memory of the past drag us down. We like to hit the rewind button in our memory and lick the wounds of long ago. We open up one painful memory and then a sudden flood of other unpleasant memories comes rushing in. And downward spiral we go.
We spend most of our time entertaining our bitterness, pains and disappointments of yesterday. We even spend countless hours just imagining the day we will get our vindication or even vengeance from past hurts. As we waste our time dwelling in our past, our present is wasted as well. And the sad thing is that our today is our tomorrow’s yesterday. Wasting the present now is just adding up to our wasted past. And the vicious cycle continues.
Many of us are also so anxious about our future. While our bodies reside in the present moment, our mind has time traveled years from now. We spend much time being worried and gloomy to things that has not happened yet. We are so absorbed in the “What Ifs” that we forget the “What nows?”
Our present also affects our future very much. To have a better tomorrow is to have a better today. Our actions today will greatly affect our future, good or bad. To waste your time today being anxious about tomorrow is to waste the opportunity to improve your tomorrow.
Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
To live life is to live in the present moment. The past is dead and the future is yet unborn. The key to healing the past and having a hopeful future lies to what you will decide to do NOW. Now is the only thing we really got. If you waste the present moment by dwelling in the past or being anxious about the future, you end up loosing everything.
The past belongs to God’s mercy, the future to His Providence and the present to His Love. To live in the present moment is to accept and experience God’s love here and now.
Today is your tomorrow’s past.
The way you live today will make your tomorrow better or bitter.
Today is where you are.
Are you there?

Sunday, July 24, 2011

Social Network Addicts Are Loneliest People



A national survey by Relationships Australia has indicated that Generation Y, who always stays connected with others through social networking sites, is the loneliest generation.
According to the Relationships Indicators Survey 2011, 30 per cent of Australians aged 25 to 34 told the survey that they were frequently lonely, far more than any other age group. The second loneliest were the young adults – with 19 per cent of them claiming to be frequently lonely.
The survey, which polled 1204 adults this year, highlighted connections between online life and loneliness. The frequently lonely were much more likely to try online dating, and to use several forms of social media (particularly Facebook ) to maintain friendships.
Melbourne University philosopher Damon Young said Generation Y is lonelier because people don’t know how to be alone.
“People who are constantly connected electronically find being alone very difficult, so it’s not that these people are necessarily more alone; it’s that they feel it more keenly. I would guess that older people who haven’t been continually saturated with information are actually able to stand their own company,” the Sydney Morning Herald quoted Young as saying.

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Cheating on Best Friend


When cheating comes into a relationship, people tend to expect their partner to cheat on them with someone at the work place or that they met somewhere out. People tend to ignore the fact that most partners wind up cheating on their partner’s best friend. How can this be?
Well, it might turn out that your best friend isn’t much of a friend after all and will be the most likely person to stab you in the back. Think about it, you spend all the time you have with your best friend when you are not with your girlfriend. After your girlfriend is comfortable with your best friend, you three hang out a lot together. They tend to get closer, not realizing they are flirting with each other.
The biggest thing that reaches out to your partner’s craving to cheat on you with your best friend is that she knows when you don’t treat her well or if things don’t work out, she will have someone to go to and fall back on. She knows someone will be there for her and take care of her when you hurt her.
The moral of this story is that you should not let too much time being spent between your girlfriend and your best friend. Avoid letting them get too close. Also, and most importantly, treat your girlfriend will respect and treat her very well with the kindness she deserves.

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

What Is Success?



Our society places so much emphasis on "making it", and we assume that any failure is bad. We try our best to avoid failure in our daily life. Is failure really so bad for us? No, what we don't always recognize is that what looks like failure may prove beneficial in the future. On the contrary, some times success can be destructive for us in long run.

    The danger of too early success is particularly acute. There was a girl who could write perfect calligraphy of China when she is primary school student. While the rest  were playing, bicycling and reading, she practise calligraphy everyday after school and all the weekend. Her name often appeared in the papers and radio in our school, and the rest envied her glamorous life. Years later, she failed to pass the examination of collage. She spoke bitterly of those early triumphs. “I never prepared myself for anything, but calligraphy of china.” Too earlier success block her step to bigger goal.

    Success that comes too easily is also damaged. One of my high middle school classmates, who always is the top student in our class. He is a talent in the eyes of his parents and us. After entering the collage, he faced the competition which he has never run into before. He doesn't stand head and shoulders above others anymore. He was not excellent as he used to anymore. He was disappointment and annoyed with his situation. He paid more his attention on score and the others opinion, but the collage work itself. He lost his way. Too easy success cover his mind to overcome difficulty in the future of his life.

    Success is also harmful when it is achieved at the cost of total quality of an experience. Successful student sometimes become so obsessed with grades that they never enjoy their school years. They are never branch out into attempting new areas, because they don't want to risk their grade-point average. Success which encourage repetition of old behaviors, is not nearly as good a teacher as failure. You can learn from a mess party how to organize it next time, from an ill-chosen book what to look for in a second. Even a failure that seems totally can prompt fresh thinking, a total change of your dream. 

    Observing the histories all over the world. Thousands of stories told us this truth. Failure is not always bad as we thought it is. Meanwhile, success is not always good as we expected. In particular, it comes too early and too easy

Saturday, July 9, 2011

The Worst Education System


The Education system in India is one of worst education system that you can ever have. We give a lot of importance to education, ones future depends on how highly qualified he/she is. We have to study subjects that we are not even interested in and which will never help us in our lives. In a good education system one should be able to gage his/her capability at an early age and educate himself/herself accordingly to his/her interests in life.

What do people actually mean when they say that someone is well educated?
Here we have books written by different authors that we have to study and every individual can decide which author’s book he/she wants to study. My question is “Why should we believe the authors who have written these books?” Is it just because a bunch of people sitting in a room decided that this is important and should be added to the education system?
So what it all comes down to is how good a person is at replicating the knowledge in those books! Is that the real meaning of being well educated or intelligent? This brings me down to a conclusion to say that parroting a book is equivalent to intelligence.

No Thinkers only Parrots
The people we call graduates are the ones who have been excellent at replicating the knowledge they have got from books. Is this the real meaning of intelligence? At campus interviews it’s not always the top rankers who get selected into the best companies, ever thought why? This is because companies look for people who can think out of the box, come up with new ideas, etc. These people are very rare nowadays. The schools and colleges that we have right now do not allow student to be innovative.  It’s all about completing the syllabus! Every school and college will deny this, however this is a fact! This is a fight that every literate person has to fight. With all the competition in todays world people have forgotten to follow their passion! Everyone wants to or is made to study just for the sake of graduating. Let’s face the facts not everyone works in the stream they have studied; Ever thought why? Mukesh Ambani was educated at Abaay Morischa School in Mumbai and completed his graduation with a bachelor`s degree in chemical engineering from the UDCT, now known as the Institute of Chemical Technology, Mumbai. Do you think he has done justice to his degree?


On the other hand we have people like Albert Einstein who never went to school, Dhirubhai Ambani was not educated Michael Dell, Mark Zuckerberg who were college drop outs. These are the most successful people that we know of. 
No offense intended to anyone, I am a student myself. All I think and want you all to know is don’t always replicate; Innovate, let the people around you know you for “your own” ideas and not your educational qualifications.
 I’ll leave you with this thought “Thinkers are the ones who can make changes for a better tomorrow not parrots”.
                                                                                                                                        
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Thursday, July 7, 2011

Men Like Women With Naughty Looks


Men are attracted towards women with sexy looks, according to a new survey.
And a great cleavage is the next best thing to turn them on.
However, when it comes to women, just a simple smile is enough to get them attracted to men.
In the survey, it was found that women were also attracted to men with a good sense of humour, even though they were unattractive.
The survey led by popcorn makers Butterkist also revealed that stockings and suspenders, knee-high boots and short skirts also featured on the list of what men couldn’t resist about women.
Thoughtfulness, generosity, and intelligence along with affectionate attitude made it to the list of biggest turn-ons for women.
“We wanted to get under the skin of what it is that makes someone actually irresistible,” the Daily Express quoted a Butterkist spokesman as saying.
“We found it’s a rare combination of things, both mental and physical,” he added.
One in 10 admit having never met someone they could not take their eyes off.
One in five said they would make any excuse to spend as much time with the man or woman of our dreams.

Saturday, July 2, 2011

Top Myths About Men’s Body


If you shave your hair comes back faster and thicker

“If that were true, we’d have a cure for male pattern baldness,” Carroll said.
Stubble may look darker and coarser because it has not yet been exposed to sun and other wearing elements.
Once it grows in, it looks identical to the hair that was shaved away.



Men think about sex every 7 seconds
“That is as many times as we breathe everyday. Nobody has that type of mental stamina,” Live Science quoted Carroll as saying.
In one of the most comprehensive surveys about sexual habits in the United states, completed by Edward Laumann and colleagues in 1994, 43 per cent of men reported thinking about sex not even once a day, but rather somewhere between a couple times a week to a couple times a month.



Single guys have better sex lives than married guys

Conventional wisdom says married men get nothing but slumber in their bedrooms, while single studs are “closing the deal”. But it is actually those with the vows that are getting it on.
A study by the National Opinion Research Center found that husbands get lucky between 28 per cent to more than 400 per cent more often than bachelors, depending on their age.
And it is not a ho-hum roll in the matrimonial bed; not only are married women more likely to be orgasmic, married men also give and get more oral sex.



Semen is loaded with calories

According to Dr. Rachel Vreeman, also of Indiana University and Carroll’s co-author, seminal fluid is made up of water and nutrients such as vitamin C, calcium and magnesium.
It also contains the sugar fructose but only 5 to 7 calories worth per serving.
“It is unlikely to create a diet issue, but this should not be used in an argument for whatever,” Live Science quoted Vreeman as saying.



Men with big feet also have big penises

It is true that the development of penises and toes (as well as clitorises and fingers) are influenced by the same gene. But the length of one does not predict the length of the other.
In a study of more than 3,000 men, no correlation was found between the self-reported size of feet and that of the crown jewels.
Another study, headed by Jyoti Shah at St. Mary’s Hospital in London, compared foot size to carefully measured privates (all 104 penises were stretched to their longest length for consistency.) No correlation was found.